Attraction...part II
So here's a few more thoughts on my last post on attraction. I was thinking about another quote today (what a surprise) and I thought about how closely it relates to the earlier post. The quote is "If you're doing what you've always done, then you'll get what you've always gotten." So as I thought about all of the people who "look for love in all the wrong places," I thought about how to further guide these wayward hearts to true and lasting love. Sometimes we have to break out of our comfort zones and try something a little different. I can't help but think of the Seinfeld episode where George does the exact opposite of what he would normally do for an entire day. The results will probably surprise you. There's so much to do in this world. Our day to day lives have a tendency to grind us down and whisper in our ears that this is the way things are. Well sometimes you have to shout back at life and say NO! Things are the way I say they are. If you don't like the way things are...change them. If there are things about you you'd like to change and can, then change them. If you can't...Oh well, it's part of what makes you you. The trick is being able to tell the difference between the things you can and can't change. You can change more than you think. How does this relate to relating you may ask? (If you didn't, I took the liberty)
My point is is that when you try to do things to attract the opposite sex you'll usually be spending time and energy that might be better spent truly bettering yourself. When I picture meeting a soulmate, I don't fantasize about meeting her at a singles bar as our beer goggled eyes vacantly behold the potential "Mr/Ms Right Now" and try to squeeze each other into our mold of what we find attractive. Now don't get me wrong. I love going to the bar or club just as much as the next weary warrior poet, and I have heard stories of people finding true love that way. But my guess is that they are few and far between. And to relate to the previous post, you have to ask yourself what you're really after. If you have a weak spot for the "bad boy" don't be surprised when he lives up to his reputation. When I think of meeting a soulmate, I think of standing in line for coffee and the bright and vibrant woman in front of me orders the same drink as me and I'm forced to say something about it to her. Or I'm at the Library studying some piece of arcane knowledge that has recently fired my imagination when her and I reach for the same book. Pretty idealistic I know, but my point is that if you're stuck in a "loveless" love life sometimes you have to change what you're doing if you want to see different results.
So to those of you who have work to do: May you have the courage to face your fears and obstacles head on and be victorious. To those of you who have this pretty well down by now I applaud you. Your confidence and poise, kindness and gentleness, and tears and laughter will all be rewarded shortly. After you exercise one last virtue...Patience.
My point is is that when you try to do things to attract the opposite sex you'll usually be spending time and energy that might be better spent truly bettering yourself. When I picture meeting a soulmate, I don't fantasize about meeting her at a singles bar as our beer goggled eyes vacantly behold the potential "Mr/Ms Right Now" and try to squeeze each other into our mold of what we find attractive. Now don't get me wrong. I love going to the bar or club just as much as the next weary warrior poet, and I have heard stories of people finding true love that way. But my guess is that they are few and far between. And to relate to the previous post, you have to ask yourself what you're really after. If you have a weak spot for the "bad boy" don't be surprised when he lives up to his reputation. When I think of meeting a soulmate, I think of standing in line for coffee and the bright and vibrant woman in front of me orders the same drink as me and I'm forced to say something about it to her. Or I'm at the Library studying some piece of arcane knowledge that has recently fired my imagination when her and I reach for the same book. Pretty idealistic I know, but my point is that if you're stuck in a "loveless" love life sometimes you have to change what you're doing if you want to see different results.
So to those of you who have work to do: May you have the courage to face your fears and obstacles head on and be victorious. To those of you who have this pretty well down by now I applaud you. Your confidence and poise, kindness and gentleness, and tears and laughter will all be rewarded shortly. After you exercise one last virtue...Patience.
posted by Jason at 12:25 PM
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